I’ve recently been asked about my personal weightloss journey, and I understand that some folks may be interested in this as a method of relating. So, here’s my story: I gained weight while pregnant. I ate pretty much the same healthy diet while pregnant as I did when I was not, but my activity levels changed dramatically, with the addition of sleep deprivation. My first pregnancy was much easier to manage than my second. With the first I was still ‘active’, and with the second my activity was mainly chasing after and lifting my then 2-year old son. After having a c-section it was very difficult to rebuild my abdominal muscles and, no, they will never be the same as pre-c-section. The first time my OB sliced into and shifted my abdominal wall to bring forth my almost 9 lb. son, she exclaimed to her colleague, “Wow! Those are some nice abdominal muscles!”. The second time she did the procedure with my second almost 9 lb. son, she didn’t say a thing. So, this happened. My journey with weight gain and loss is around my experience creating two sensitive, intelligent and head-strong future Men. Something that surprised me was how long it takes for skin to rebound after weight gain and loss. Skin retraction takes an enormous amount of time. And during that time we must be patience, consistent, gentle and loving with ourselves. Because, yes, the scale might indicate weight has been lost. However the skin will need continued time and consistency to retract so that the weightloss can manifest in our physical appearance. I found that it took almost 1 full year of lifestyle change before my skin hugged taught to me once again.
My hair is perfectly imperfect, my nails get chipped & clogged with earth. My skin gets rough from salt & chlorine water, my clothes come straight from the dryer, unpressed. There are laundry baskets of clean clothes in the hallway, and my dogs have covered my couch in hair. Cheerios and crumbs litter my kitchen floor, and the table is cluttered with my kids creations. I live a life. A sticky, messy, loving, sometimes loud and unsettling life. I am an image, a force, a dedicated enthusiast of all things beautiful and transformative. Come join me on the adventure, or pardon me as I fly by.... -Aven